Behind the Creation of “Hatsukoi”: Part 1
~Scripted from an extract of ANN Tamashii no Radio 2009.11.21 ~
This is a CM song, so we already had a theme - Memory. When I was thinking about what to write into the lyrics, I remembered something that I had heard from a woman before – “A woman will never marry the one she loves most. The man I married is not the love of my life.” I suddenly remembered these words, when thinking about the theme for “Memory”.
The person who said this to me was already married, and when I asked her “What about your husband?” She said, “Of course I love my husband, he makes me feel safe, and it’s because I want to be with him that I married him. But if you ask me if he is the one I love most, hmm…..then…..”
This is something a woman would say, especially married women. But from a man…….I don’t think so. “I’m not going to marry the girl I love most!” Men wouldn’t say something like that. Uh…….he’d love her I think …..(the woman he marries) she should be the one he loves most. When a man gets married, whatever the case, she should be the “love of my life”.
When I asked the other women, many of them gave me a similar answer. If you dig deeper, what comes out is typical of what you’d hear in radio broadcasts. From a woman’s point of view, they’d start giving you very practical and realistic replies. They’d say if they were to be with their “one love”, they’d end up working too hard at it, they’d feel burnt out etc. Things like having to put their best face forward all the time, doing everything their partner wants and so on. So they’d end up in an act even in daily life….Starting from their H at night, they’d pretend whatever is necessary to fulfill their partner’s wishes. Like if he wants the full set, she’d have no choice but to give in…..something like that. The main point is, when they are with their most loved, they’d lose their true selves. Eventually, they’d settle for the second in line……..actually, whether it’s the second I don’t know either, to marry someone who wouldn’t make them feel so tense.
3 out of 5 people said the same thing. Yes, about 60% of the women. I really want to hear more about it! So I want to ask the listeners – “Are you married to the one you love most?” Of course, you can write over even if you’re not married yet.
(S: Then we’ll have to restrict this. The “person I love most” cannot be Masaharu-san.)
Yes, cannot. That’s obvious, isn’t it!
(S: Ah! Here comes that occasional flash of anger….(laugh))
(Big laugh) Anyway, you can write in if you’re not married either, are you together with the one you love most…
(S: Even unmarried people? To say whether they are dating their most loved…..)
I’m sure there are people like that! Even if it were the man they most love, they’d take it upon themselves to break it up………It’s their greatest love!! Yet all because they aren’t able to be themselves again…..
So, whether you’re married or not, please write in and tell us!
Next time you go home, you wanna ask your mother (to Sou-chan) if that is true? (laugh) If mine were to say those words to me, I’d probably answer with indifference “ Oh, yeah?” But my parents…….they’re quite a lot of years apart. When they got married, Father was 33 and Mother was 20. I guess Father must have been Mother’s most loved…..at least I think so. Because he was already 33, he must have had a lot of fun by then…….How about yours?
(S: My family…….they worked in the same company, and were almost the same age…… I’ve never heard my Mother say something like that…….On the contrary, will there be any man who’d know he’s not the one she loves most?)
Yeah! You’ve got a point! What do men feel about it? Like how I feel, always being second place in the anan ranking? (laugh) I want to know what they think about it too. But to be the victor in love, it doesn’t matter whether you’re first place on her feelings, or lower down, as long as you feel happy, then you’re the winner already. Regardless of whether you’re her greatest love. I can tell you that from the very start!
Like the listener just now, although her mother told her that her father was not the man she loved most, if the two of them feel they have a blessed and happy life together, that’s good enough.
(S: Yumiko-san from Kawasaki City wrote in – I didn’t marry my greatest love…….)
You see! They can all say this out so very easily.
(S: (continues to read letter)………Perhaps he is the man I will love most for the rest of my life. He will always dwell in my heart…..)
That’s it! That’s what the women say! Really! All of them……. I just went over to casually ask some of our female staff, every one of them said the same thing! “Without doubt, he will always be the love of my life” And they’re not a bit embarrassed about it………….not that I care, I haven’t met that boyfriend of yours anyway. But on hearing those words, I thought “That would be a great subject to write a song on.” (laugh) And it’s because of this reason that I wrote this song.
(Masha reads a letter)
Yes, this song is just right for you (ladies)…… it’s going to be tough though, because I am going to open up that dam which you used to store up all your emotion and never told anyone else about all this time.
(Masha reads a letter)
“Let me tell you the result straight up, I did not marry the man I love most. I really love him and want to get married with him. But instead he told me ‘You better not get married to me, marry the man you date after me, that should give you more happiness!………(unnecessary parts skipped) ………In the end, we couldn’t be together. But I still dream about him even now. “
Oh yes……you really do dream about them, don’t you. That’s because you’re still thinking about them in your subconscious.
But the emails we’ve got so far didn’t give us much background, they just start straight with the outcome, right? And you can sense the intense emotion behind those very few words written. That’s not uncommon….especially with women. Men are not like that at all! They only say dumb things like “The one I’ve fallen in love with, is the type I like”.
But I think it can’t be helped that women are like that. In reality, they need to protect their children….for the sake of continuing the family. They give birth to children and bring them up……of course there are some who would choose to have kids and some who choose not to. But from a woman’s basic instinct, that basic ability that is naturally inborn, she’d want to find someone who can let her feel safe and give her (and her children) an environment to have a secure life.
Depending on different individual needs, for some people ……..MONEY ~~Money makes me crazy~~, and some would be the opposite. There are some who choose money and others who look for a stable life, like wanting someone who would listen to and do what she says.
I don’t think women like to play around with matters like these, they are really serious about both love and life. Men, on the other hand, give the impression that they are serious on one side and fool around on the other. Women are like vehicle tracks, they can run both sides parallel to each other.
Men also have a love they cannot forget. But that’s not their “Hatsukoi”*, it’s their “puppy love”, the love they had at the most innocent time of their lives. I can remember how the two of us were so pure in heart at that time.
~ The End ~
* “Hatsukoi” here refers to the first time they really learn how to love (as an adult)